Never Take Friendship Personal

as i drove home in the pouring rain one recent night, i had a not-so-romantic thought.


it has occurred to me that the status "friends" seems to cover all sins.
when 2 people are "friends", there seems to be an endless list of things that one could do to negatively affect the other, only to be followed by an apology and a forgiveness.

is that abuse?
or is that just the loving way through which friendship works?

i can't think of a single person who has never felt taken advantage of, neglected, unappreciated, etc, by their friends.

so is this what sets "friends" apart from other "regular people"? that we can constantly inflict disappointment and sadness in them, because we know that they will forgive us? but to what extent? the love is not unconditional. our love outside of family is never unconditional. we may call our friends "family" all we want, but once a certain line gets crossed, that love is no longer innocent. at the same time, isn't this a good thing, since we all need somebody to put up with our crap? but how much is too much? and if our tolerance is relative to how much we care about them, then doesn't that mean the people we care about the most actually hurt us the most?



how ruthlessly abstruse.
i guess in the end, the only thing that matters is the memories.